We've all heard stories about gay or queer people who've been aware of who and what they were their entire lives. Many can even remember having their first crushes on people of the same sex way back when they were kids. However, while some people self-identify as gay, bi, or queer very early in life, it's important to realize that other people have a much less straightforward journey to self-realization.
Even here in the 21^st^ century, most people still assume straightness of others unless they have a good reason not to. Many folks even assume it of themselves, especially if they come from conservative backgrounds, so yes. It's entirely possible to be gay and not really know it. However, there are usually signs that point toward the truth. Do any of the following sound familiar?
Lack of Desire for the Opposite Sex
It's more common than you think for